Maybe it’s a lost job or a catastrophic injury or illness, perhaps it’s the sudden loss of a loved one, or a crisis of faith. We develop a feeling when life brings us these uncertainty and unwanted changes, we may feel anxious, overwhelmed, sad and angry. These feelings can lead us to irrational thoughts of self-medication with drugs or alcohol thoughts of giving up or harming yourself. But never forget that NO matter what is going wrong, you are never 100% helpless – even though it might feel that way in your worst moments.
We have a choice of how we see things and we can choose the bright side of the situation. Remember changing your perspective is like changing the camera lens through which you view the world. So, when you change your view of the world, you change the way you feel about it.
WAYS TO SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE
What you see depends not only what you look at, but also, on where you look from. Years ago, I learned about a strategy called helicopter perspective. The idea of this perspective is when we look from a helicopter in the sky, our viewpoint is expanded and we can get a more complete picture of the other aspects of our life. May be by doing practice of this perspective you can see some parts of our world displaying compassion, courage and love towards helping each other, maybe you begin to appreciate the roof over your head, your family, your friends in ways you never thought about before.
LESSON, NOT THE ISSUE
We all go through good and bad experiences in our life, but from my point of view every experience is a good experience. Actually, it’s what you think or make of them that matters the most. There is always an opportunity to evolve. If you look bit closer you will find positivity more often. Try to focus on the lesson, not the issue.
You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.” —Walter Hagen
LEAVE YOUR PAST BEHIND
When facing new challenges, try to remember that the past is past. Leave it where it belongs. If lessons from the past can help you avoid repetition, use them. You have the choice to build your future as you want it, and the opportunity to use your current circumstances to help you get there. You should never assume that you are completely on your own. Help can appear from anywhere. Sometimes, if you start doing the work, the universe meets you halfway by sending the person with just the right skills or with the right advice.
POSITIVE ATTRACTS POSITIVE
At this point it’s obvious that gratitude is important. Expressing gratitude everyday can boost your positive attitude in so many ways. Gratitude practice can be done at night or first thing in the morning. When you wake up, ask yourself, “What are 3 things I am grateful for this morning?” or, when you go to bed, “What are 3 things that made me happy today?” Being grateful unfolds in so many positive ways. It will help you have the right, positive energy which will attract positivity. And if you are unfamiliar with the term called “the law of attraction” let me tell you that it is theory that like attracts like. This means that if you are constantly talking about how your life shits, work shifts, and money is tight, guess what you are going to notice more of? Life shitting more in general, more tiffs with your boss, and financial losses. Netflix has a great documentary called The Secret that explains this theory in much more detail, and also talks about how people can become more successful with their positivity.
IN ORDER TO RISE FROM ITS OWN ASHES, A PHOENIX MUST BURN FIRST
If the phoenix – Albus Dumbledore’s animal in Harry Potter- has taught us anything, it’s that before you reborn as a smarter, stronger, happier person sometime you have to say goodbye to some things first. Maybe losing your job is the best thing for you, and you just don’t know it yet. Losing a job that makes you feel safe but not challenged could be a sign that your real career hasn’t started yet. Maybe that injury which forced you to move back to your hometown for support will reconnect you with the people. Maybe the crisis of faith you are facing now will actually strengthen your belief.
It’s all about your perspective. Sometime shifting your perspective can help you get back on your feet.